I talk to many young women today who say they feel at times pressured in relationships, because there are seemingly too few good men. They say that because good men know many women are looking for good relationships, there are times where women may feel compelled to do things in the relationship that they may not want to do, but feel is necessary in order for the man to hang around. So in a sense, some women lower their standards just to have someone in their life. This is also true of some men as well.

My position is that women should NEVER lower their standards just to stay in a relationship. If a guy really likes a woman, he will live up to whatever standard that woman sets. So for a woman to lower the bar only lowers his expectations of her and the relationship. The problem I see is that many women don’t want to be alone, even for a “season,” and this is what causes women to lower their standards. But I believe that being alone is better than being in a relationship with someone that cannot love you the way you need to be loved.

What are your thoughts? Let your voice be heard!

In watching the news recently, we have seen promiment politicians admit to extra-marital affairs. And now it appears that Steve McNair’s death, was also the result of an illicit relationship. We also know of Pastors and other church leaders that have been involved in situations like these. All of this points to a very important point; just because a person is successful, does not mean that their moral standards are in line with God’s.

In recent Time magazine article, it suggests that the one thing that is crippling our country more than anything else is infidelity. A lack of commitment in relationships. It affects our children and how we seek out meaning in relationships.

What are your thoughts? Is a long term relationship where both persons are faithful to the other the exception rather than the rule? Let me hear from you!

According to a recent survey, trust of church leadership is the lowest it has ever been. With many Pastors involved in scandals and sinful activity, members of congregations are becoming more leery of its leadership.

Do you think Pastors are held to a double standard? Pastors are in fact human and sin just like everyone else. Do you think Pastors are placed on a level that is unrealistic? Should we not expect Pastors to struggle with sin like everyone else or do we believe that Pastors should model a life of purity and holiness without sin? Is that possible?

Are there double standards for Pastors? Let your voice be heard!

According to a recent study on www.barna.org, many Christians are changing their views of how they experience God. While many people still believe faith is important, Christians today differ on how faith should be explored. According to the survey, many Christians are open to worshipping at a new church, and 50% of those in the survey stated that they are tired of the same “old thing” when it comes to church services and experiences. What do you think? Do you think the church is behind the times? Do you wish to attend a different church or want your church to do some things differently to reach this present generation? Let your voice be heard!

According to a recent report, Christianity is no longer considered to be the default religion in our country. Which means, many people in our country today consider Christianity on the same lines as Islam or Buddhist or any other religion. Our country was founded on Christian principles and faith and now many people are moving away from our religion. Is this the world or has the church lost its grip? Where is the power in the church? Why are people leaving the church and consdering other faiths? What can the church do to get its power back to share with the world the message of Jesus Christ?

As we have seen the Chris Brown/Rihanna play out, I am disturbed that so many people, particularly young women believe that Rihanna deserved the treatment she “allegedly” received from Chris Brown. Have we gotten to the place in our society where it is acceptable in some cases for physical altercations to occur in relationships? We know that 1 out of every 4 women have been involved in a relationship where there was domestic violence. Is domestic violence now a part of most relationships? Why do you think she stayed? Does love have to hurt?